Comments on: The Emotionally Intelligent Writer https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/ Helping writers become bestselling authors Wed, 09 Apr 2025 17:09:14 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 By: Tamar Sloan https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-644149 Thu, 18 Apr 2019 09:05:52 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-644149 In reply to Beth Barany.

Hi Beth,
I agree, success is different for everyone, and can just as much be a verb as a noun. Those authors who demonstrate the passion and perseverance to keep writing are winners every day.
Which means success can be reached over and over when we write – whether it’s hitting our daily writing goal, writing when you really, really don’t fee like it, or whether it’s earning a full-time income from your words.
It’s a truly an individual and diverse concept, and the beauty is that we all get to define our own ‘success’.
Thanks for your perspective,
Tamar

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By: Beth Barany https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-643784 Mon, 15 Apr 2019 18:13:32 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-643784 Hi Tamar, I appreciate you bringing to light the essential elements of emotional intelligence for writers. Since emotions are the core of our work as novelists, understanding them is key.

I do disagree with your definition of success, though. Specifically “I’m going to define ‘successful authors’ as those who generate a full-time income from their writing…”

Before a writer can earn money from their work, they first have to be a beginner (and intermediate) writer.

All the work that goes into writing pre-publication, and even while selling only a few books, needs to be appreciated, if a writer wants to build on it.

I see each step of the way of building into a lucrative author career, a success.

Success isn’t only that mountain peak of generating full-time income. By that definition, I am not a success, nor is most of the writers I know. That is a goal; but success is showing up to do the daily work to get to that mountain peak.

Thanks!

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By: To Picks Thursday! For Writers & Readers 04-11-2019 | The Author Chronicles https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-643239 Thu, 11 Apr 2019 17:02:30 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-643239 […] is a huge emotional component to writing. Tamar Sloan examines the emotionally intelligent writer, while Colleen M. Story advises that the best writing decisions are made using all three brains […]

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By: Author Inspiration and This Week’s Writing Links – Staci Troilo https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-642395 Fri, 05 Apr 2019 05:01:18 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-642395 […] The Emotionally Intelligent Writer | Writers Helping Writers […]

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By: P.I. Barrington https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-642276 Thu, 04 Apr 2019 01:02:56 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-642276 I’ll admit when I saw this article, I thought “Here it comes; dull and boring” but that wasn’t the case at all. Great insights and great for authors to get some perspective on ourselves. Certainly wasn’t boring!
Patti

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By: Tamar Sloan https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-642172 Tue, 02 Apr 2019 21:21:16 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-642172 In reply to Micki Browning.

Hi Micki,
Intrinsic and extrinsic motivation is fascinating! It’s really useful to reflect on both in relation to our writing (it’s the intrinsic motivation that will keep you going through the tough times).
Happy writing,
Tamar

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By: Tamar Sloan https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-642171 Tue, 02 Apr 2019 21:19:33 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-642171 In reply to M. Lee Scott.

So glad you found it useful! Self-awareness is an under acknowledged but so valuable in our success as a writer 🙂
Happy writing,
Tamar

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By: Tamar Sloan https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-642170 Tue, 02 Apr 2019 21:17:09 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-642170 In reply to Cathryn Cade.

Hi Cathryn,
I totally agree. Writing is HARD! You need to realize where your comfort zones lie and be willing to extend them. Emotional intelligence helps us navigate that challenge.
Happy writing,
Tamar

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By: Tamar Sloan https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-642154 Tue, 02 Apr 2019 19:03:24 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-642154 In reply to BECCA PUGLISI.

It’s fascinating, isn’t it? I’m going to do a study one day…
: )

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By: Cathryn Cade https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-642137 Tue, 02 Apr 2019 16:04:56 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-642137 Tamar,

Great article. As writers, we definitely need to know our strengths and weaknesses, or the trials and tribs of a writing career will sink us.

This is the best job in the world, but it’s difficult. There is a point in every book when it’s a sheer grind to keep going.

And social media? Shyeah. Time for us introverts to stre-e-etch our bubble and let others in, while not spending too much time chasing cute puppy pics.

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By: M. Lee Scott https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-642135 Tue, 02 Apr 2019 16:03:35 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-642135 One of the best articles I’ve read on how our (the writer) emotions help us write better books. I think self-awareness is the ultimate key to our writing success. Putting your strategies to work every day until they become a habit will guarantee not only our greatest achievements but better our everyday living. Thanks so much for this awesome article, Tamar!

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By: Micki Browning https://writershelpingwriters.net/2019/04/the-emotionally-intelligent-writer/#comment-642132 Tue, 02 Apr 2019 14:48:14 +0000 https://writershelpingwriters.net/?p=35282#comment-642132 Thank you for this fascinating post. I especially liked the insight into intrinsic and extrinsic motivations. We all may start with one or the other type of motivation, but it makes sense that to be truly successful, authors must have a healthy dose of both types.

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